I humbly fall at Your feet this morning. You know the depths of my heart and how my heart shatters when I hear the words “It’s your fault.” I’ve heard this phrase many times throughout my life—whether it has been directed at me or at someone else. Every time, I feel the heavy weight of blame. Why do I blame myself for the unhealthy choices that a family member or a friend has made in life? Why do I take the blame for their misfortunes? What if I would have done something differently?

The world shows me that nobody is immune to this behavior—great-grandparents, grandparents, parents, children, and grandchildren. They’ve all experienced it and now it’s my turn. It’s the generational blame game. We blame the previous generation for the questionable choices we make in our lives. Lord, I place this problem in Your hands. Show me how to win this game by ending it once and for all.

You, the Lord of all the earth, have shown me through Your Word that it’s an individual choice—that there will be conflicts between those who follow You and those who choose to follow the world. And there will be divisions in my own family and relationships if one person is living in the light and the other in the dark. Harmony is impossible, or so it seems to me. Your truth tells me,

Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. Whoever does not take up their cross and follow me is not worthy of me.Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for my sake will find it (Matthew 10:37–39 NIV).

King of heaven and earth, I pray this morning for those who have walked away from Your love. My heart cries over their separation—to be separated from You for eternity is an unbearable thought. Jesus, open their eyes to seek Your grace. Open their ears to hear Your truth and promise that they are Your children and You do not want them to perish. Lead them to Your cross. Only then will the blame game be over. “The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance” (2 Peter 3:9 NIV).